From: cam huegenot (cameocares@live.com)
Sent: Fri 2/22/08 2:08 PM
To: dicksiedael@aol.com
Hellooo? My point in responding to Holly is that she needs to KEEP QUIET. Of course I'm upset because she's spilling beans and giving "evidence" to CPS, the very "evidence" they don't have and want/need to prove their case. She may not have known that this is what they're doing, but someone needs to tell her to clam up. If she wants to help me and help Oliver, she will NOT talk. If she says one little thing, they'll take it and run with it and say my own family backs THEM up and they'll even exaggerate everything. You do NOT talk to these people.
To: cameocares@live.com
Subject: Re: partial email frm Holly
Date: Fri, 22 Feb 2008 16:50:32 -0500
From: dicksiedael@aol.com
Okay, Cameo...if this is your attitude, so be it. If you want to know what incriminates you, it's your OWN words...such as in the blogs I suggested you NOT write. Blogs you wrote after even a judge cautioned you to not say anything without an attorney because this is serious. You just sit and write it all out in a blog. YOU have brought this on yourself. Did you intend to? I'm sure you didn't. But you did. Holly did her best to suggest to them that you do love Oliver, take care of him. Sould she lie about your housekeeping? No.
If you revert to your ranting and raving, then I'm sorry. I wont deal with you like that, period. Dad feels the same. If you want to fight EVERYbody, you'll have to do it, I guess...but not with our help or money. I will send you some pills today. I will pay for a bus ticket one time. If you are going to be explosive, I wont be working with you either; I'll keep praying, but I wont be paying. I'm sorry; I know you don't agree or approve, but we do love you; that doesn't mean we think everything you do is fine and dandy. I'll go ahead and talk with the attorney if he'll talk with me, but there are NO promises here. ....and time is running out, so you might want to make alternate plans.
Even the radiation testing...I have not promised to do it; I'm willing to look at it and would do it if reliable and not horrible cost.
-----Original Message-----
From: cam huegenot
To: dicksiedael@aol.com
Sent: Fri, 22 Feb 2008 1:40 pm
Subject: RE: partial email frm Holly
Yeah Oliver probably thinks if he doesn't stop his tantrum, Holly will leave him too.
Tell HOLLY to fREAKING STOP talking to CPS and the guardians and workers. SHE IS NOT HELPING me by doing this, even though she may think so. All those questions were to get DIRT on ME and try to back up their case in court. She is talking to the wrong side and they will even use HER and her words as a statement against me. If Holly continues to talk about me, instead of telling them to contact me themselves (which they haven't done), I WILL petition to have Oliver removed because she isn't HELPING. Holly and I have NEVER been on good terms and I've never liked her much or gotten along with her. In returne, SHE has accused me of all kinds of things in the past on her own and is PARANOID abou tany thing that sounds like "narcotics" or even caffeine. She is extreme.
After this, I'm not doing anything for anyone until I get radiation testing back, period. That's it.
And as for CPS wanting to help, Holly is totally naive to this process too. They were just as "Sweet" and on "your side" and helpful to me before they showed what they really thought. What Holly has done, in speaking to anyone hired by the state, is going to work against me in court. She shouldn't be giving information nto them about me at all. Her obligation is to tell them how Oliver is doing NOW, not her opinions aboutu me. My own lawyer would say the same thing to her.
I personally do not relate to Holly and have never had anything in common with her. She's fanatic, and if anyone is paranoid about stupid things, it's Holly. Some of the Bairds have NO world experience or knowledge and after living a sheltered life where they've always been supported by husbands since a teen, think they know how things are in the world. Holly and Pablo will and can take care of Oliver, but as for helping me get him back, I frankly think they would try to take him from me and adopt him themselves, if nothing else, to turn him into a "good christian soldier" at their holy-roller church.
And yeah, Oliver is showing signs of distress and damage from being torn from me. Holly even went so far as to say she and the family were concerned about HOW I would be with him, as if SHE thought I WAS a risk or danger because of my "moods". This is BULLSHIT and you can tell her so and tell her to keep her fat mouth shut.
You can read THIS to DAD
To: cameocares@live.com
Subject: partial email frm Holly
Date: Fri, 22 Feb 2008 15:46:54 -0500
From: dicksiedael@aol.com
This is part of a note that Holly sent; thought you might be interested:
(sent yesterday around 3:30 pm)
Now what I wanted to talk with you about. First, I got a call from the guardian today. I don't remember his name, but he has an appointment to come visit tomorrow around 1:30. I plan to buy groceries in the a.m. and Pat had offered to watch him for me while I do that. I figure if he cries too much when I go to leave, I'll just take him with me. The guardian seemed really nice and said he was going to try and get in touch with Cameo too. He asked me a few questions about Oliver and how he's doing and I told him how he loves his veggies and fruits and food, more than sweets, and that has to be Cameo's doing. Told him how dad found the fridge full of organic food. That she loves Oliver lots and no one has seen her be mean or abusive to him. He mentioned that that wasn't even something they were worried about or looking at. So they are not trying to say she's been an abusive mother from what I gather. After he called I got a call from --- gulp --- Cameo. She's not supposed to call and she had called me just yesterday (don't remember if I told you). Yesterday she identified herself and said she wasn't sure if she was allowed to call or not. I told her she wasn't and she just asked if I could tell her if Oliver was alright. I told her he was and she said good bye and hung up. Today she started off by identifying herself and saying she had just received a copy of the order and that apparently she could talk with him, because as she read it she is only restrained from coming to the house. I told her no, she wasn't suppose to call and that she also is not suppose to come to the house. She said her copy said different. She was not wanting to hang up this time, so I told her I had a copy of the order and would read it to her. I told her it was the Shelter Hearing Order and on the second to the last page, paragraph such and such and read it to her. She said well, mine says different, just a minute and I'll get it and read it. So it took her awhile and she started reading and I told her it was the same order as the one I had. Then she turned to the place where it specifies about the restraining order and she started to read, stopped and said - "Oh, I guess I just thought since there was something written in, 'd' was the only paragraph that applied. I told her no, it was the whole section. I told her she needed to get in touch with CPS and she said she'd tried 3 times and they weren't returning her calls. I told her I'd spoken with the guardian and he was going to call her and possibly he could do something to help. I also told her I am suppose to notify them if she tries to call me, and it will make trouble for her, and that I hadn't reported her calling me the day before. She wanted to argue some during the conversation, or kind of present her side of things, but I told her she really needed to get in touch with CPS and just keep trying. She said she would and hung up. Then I got a call from Marie Scanlan (sp?) the new social worker for Oliver. She was calling about setting up visitation for Cameo with Oliver and said she had spoken with Cameo. She is wanting to have visitation Tues. and Thurs. from 9:30 a.m. to 11:00 a.m. or 11:30, I can't remember right now. Anyway, she also said she needs to come out to the house and see how Oliver is doing, and she needs to do that once a month. I said fine, but she didn't set up any time for doing that yet. She also said the visits with Oliver and Cameo would be supervised by a Shirley somebody and I would meet her and she would pick Oliver up and bring him home. I asked if I could take him the first time or two, until he realizes he doesn't have to be scared because he won't know her. She said that was great and anytime I want to do it I can. She also asked if I felt that Cameo would try to take Oliver and run with him again, that she realized I'm in a difficult position here, being family and all. I told her I honestly didn't know. I explained how she had told you she apparently annonymously called CPS and that was when she took Oliver, and I just didn't know, but it could be a possibility. I also asked for her advice on how to handle Oliver when he has his tantrums. She said that many children like Oliver who are taken from their home, do throw tantrums. They believe they are feeling insecure and pressing on boundaries, hoping to find some being set to make them feel secure. She just gave me a few ideas for what I could do when he has a fit and has a moment of calm in the fit, to try and draw his attention away from it, etc. She really was nice and helpful and said she's got a little one of her own and understands. I really don't know that I think CPS are the bad guys here, but are genuinely trying to help and looking out for Oliver. I remember the guardian asked me what I thought about Cameo as a mother (if not exactly those words, then more or less). I told him she was attentive to Oliver, she had been taking care of him health wise in the foods he eats, like I mentioned above, that she really loves him but that we wer concerned because of some moody or explosive behavior, thinking it could be related to meds and therefore could potentially be a problem where Oliver is concerned too. Somehow the house came up and he asked me if it was dirty and I told him, yes it was very dirty. He also mentioned that she had applied for a change of venue, but that he really doubts it will be granted. He said the courts tend to try and keep a child with family if at all possible. And said that since she has no ties in the Blaine area or connections, it is very doubtful that a judge would grant change of venue. (He did ask me if I knew of any connections she had there and I told him I didn't think she did). He will be contacting her and visiting with her too, because he is the one who will be deciding, in his opinion, where Oliver is best off for the time being, or in the long run as time goes on. Then a judge takes his recommendations into consideration for who he allows to have Oliver.
Oliver has been really good today. He's started to have a tantrum a time or two, but I just shook my head and said no, and he snapped right out of it. He's been sweet, and jabbery and just easy to take care of today. He went to bed at 10 last night, I think, and didn't get up until 9 this a.m., sleeping through the whole night again.
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