Article About Sex Over 40 & Cigarettes & Military

The headline I saw about sex over 40 is a bunch of b.s. If people aren't having sex, it's because of choice or because of a dysfunction (psychological or physical). Physically, horomones do not change that much so as to affect sex drive.

My opinion is that it's about self-control and knowing what you want more as you get older. People who are over 40, are either possibly bored in a marriage because it's been so many years (ups and downs) or they are not getting drunk or allowing others to exploit them or are as vulnerable themselves.

I don't believe horomones affects sex drive that much in age, as much as choice and wisdom. If horomones help, maybe that's the case but I think it's due to socio-economic matters far more. I think people with strong sex drives carry that through their 40s and beyond if they have a willing partner.

I also think that one of the biggest downers for a sex drive (which might be a benefit to some who feel their sex drive is out of control) is cigarettes.

I wouldn't advocate smoking for any reason unless it's on occasion, but cigarettes can even permanently alter drive. I've read research (when I was smoking) about what parts of the brain are affected and actually, one of the primary reasons the military still allows smoking, is that it not only acts as a kind of temporary pleasure replacement for sex, it significantly alters sex drive.

On one hand, you want to know what's in the cigarettes and they have concern about poisoning, but on the other hand, as a simple form of sexual, stress and aggression management, cigarettes--regular tobacco, will decrease and diminish the sex drive.

The research is out there if you look it up.

Also, I think that for men it's more on the mind all the time because the main stimulus is sight, which is hard to avoid. For women, it's touch (more often but not all the time) and once the memory of this or a habit is broken (break any habit in 3 months), that woman could go on, possibly, to be a perpetual celibate. Men never have the same opportunity of having the stimulus removed. It's always out there, everywhere they turn. I think this is why it's easier for women to go longer periods without any sexual contact.

Then again, I give a lot of credence to self control and will and what sort of positions you put yourself in, what ones values are, and then the time factor of acheiving whatever goal one might have set out to accomplish.

I think some of it has to do with horomones, higher than average ones or not. But that's not going to be significantly affected by getting older for the person who has or had higher than average levels to begin with.

In some ways, I think menopause is a myth. Not fully, but on the sexual level, a little bit. Some people need horomones and others are just adjusted to different things or have different opportunities by that time in life.

You wouldn't hear about all the "dirty old men" if sex drive decreased that much with age. There are plenty of "dirty old women" out there too.

By the way, people who go on some of the anti-depressants to quit smoking, find their sex drive increasing. Part of it is probably due to smoking cessation and the other part is possibly the actual medication.

From me personally, I was able to go over 6 years and then 3 years or whatever, in fully celibate gaps, by choice. Once that 3 month hurdle of breaking a habit is accomplished, it's very easy. No matter what age you are. After 6 months, even better. If touch is reintroduced, probably the same desire returns in a way, but the thing is, most women don't want to be touched randomly or would only allow someone who they are interested in furthering something with, to touch them in any way at all, aside from a hug, back massage, or something basic and neutral.

Mystery solved.

I feel like Dr. Ruth or Heloise.